Propers of the Day:
Deuteronomy 18:15-20 / Psalm 111 / 1 Corinthians 8:1-13 / Mark 1:21-28
In November of 1958, American author and Nobel laureate John Steinbeck received a letter from his eldest son Thom, then a teenager studying away from home at a boarding school. In the letter, Thom told his father that he had fallen desperately in love with a girl at his boarding school. In response to his son’s note, Steinbeck sent back a letter in response – a letter filled with tender love for his young son. Here’s a portion of what he writes:
Dear Thom:
We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.
First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.
Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had…
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.
Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.
Steinbeck goes on to add a few concluding words, looking forward to a later visit with his young son and his crush during a future break from the boarding school. Steinbeck’s letter is perhaps one of the most wonderful expressions I’ve encountered of the nature of love – I’ve filed his letter away both for use in the future when doing pre-marital counseling, not to mention to have for my own sake. Steinbeck’s letter, believe it or not, strikes right to the very heart of one of our appointed pieces of scripture for today.
Of all of the books of the New Testament, perhaps none is as focused on the nature of love as Paul’s First Letter to the Corinthians. This may seem surprising, especially when we consider our epistle readings from First Corinthians over the past several weeks: we have heard Paul speak about sexual ethics, preaching that “The body is meant not for fornication but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” Last week, Paul wrote that “let even those who have wives be as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing.” And this week, Paul writes to the Church in Corinth about the practice of eating food sacrificed to idols. In fact, as soon as we begin to read this epistle, it becomes clear that Paul is speaking to a community that is immersed in conflict on every level. Within the space of twelve chapters, Paul writes a condemnations of a man sleeping with his mother-in-law and of lawsuits among the community of disciples in Corinth, he writes instructing people who haven’t yet married that “it is better to marry than to burn” and writes to still others telling them that it is best not to eat food sacrificed to idols. Paul writes to defend his own authority as an apostle, writes to condemn abuses by the wealthy at the Eucharistic table, and writes seeking to end the abuse of some members of the community by others who perceive themselves as having greater spiritual gifts. There are seemingly an infinite number of conflicts, an infinite number of problems, with what would seem to be an infinite number of solutions. And yet, with so many different ailments, so many sicknesses in the Corinthian church, Paul deftly weaves them all together as symptoms of a single illness: the church has forgotten how to love.
Today’s epistle addresses the conflict among community members in Corinth concerning the consumption of food that has been sacrificed in pagan rituals. As would have been common in any Mediterranean city of Paul’s time, the food offered to idols in pagan temples would then subsequently be sold in the marketplace; it was conceivable, if not likely, that the cut of steak on the Corinthian Christian’s banquet table my have been sacrificed to Zeus earlier in the day. This caused controversy: some in the community argued that it would be a sacrilege for a Christian to eat food sacrificed to another God, while others said that since it was clear there is only one true God, it didn’t matter where the food came from – simply calling a piece of food a “Zeus Burger” didn’t make it so.
Paul’s response to the church in Corinth gives a clear answer to which side of this debate is correct – of course they can eat this food, he writes, because “even though there may be so-called gods in heaven or on earth- yet for us there is one God, the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord, Jesus Christ.” But, Paul stresses, who’s right on this particular question doesn’t matter so much. In fact, it barely matters at all.
What matters, he says, is that the community needs to look up from their plates, and into the faces of one another. Paul notes that not every one in this community of converts understands that there is nothing wrong with eating the food sacrificed to idols. In fact, many are new converts from the very religions who have sacrificed that same food, and so “they still think of the food they eat as food offered to an idol; and their conscience is hurt.” So while one side of the argument may be correct, and have the “right answer,” Paul writes, when these new converts see people with the right answerseating in the temple of an idol, could not these converts be hurt in their weakness, and be led to fall away from God? Has the community been so caught up in its quest to be correct – in its desire to be right – that it has failed to perceive the emotions, concerns, and difficulties of those around them they are called to love?
The problem in the Church, Paul says, is not food, or sex, or money, or any of the myriad other issues that confront us as much today as they did the church in the first century. Our problem is that we become so tied up in the idolatry of self – in the selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing that was as real to Paul and the Corinthian church as it was when Steinbeck described this reality to his son, and as it still is today. The problem isn’t idols, or pieces of meat, or correct answers; the problem is a failure to see one another, to meet one another, to wait patiently for one another. Jesus’ love compels us to reach out in love and concern for others, seeing each other as valuable and beloved. In doing so, as Steinbeck later wrote, strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom are then released in us that we didn’t know we had. Jesus’ love charges us to give up and sacrifice everything of ourselves for the sake of others in a way that ultimately builds us up in ways we could never seek to build ourselves. Love means giving up of ourselves so completely to one another, being so knit together with each other, that we are raised by and through others and not unto ourselves. You’ve heard how Steinbeck describes love – but consider the words Paul gives to the church in Corinth as he concludes his thoughts on their many arguments. I suspect you’ve his words before:
If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end… For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
While our lectionary never gets us there, each of our lectionary readings from First Corinthians point to, and build to, this ultimate aim: every conflict, every problem, is nothing in the face of true love for one another, love that looks to to the needs, concerns, struggles of others above and beyond our own. It means putting aside who is “right” for the moment, and simply seeking to meet each other where we are. This is the love that is shown to us on the cross, and this is what it means for us to love one another as Christ’s body.
I read to you the beginning of Steinbeck’s letter to his son, written out of his own deep compassion and care for his child. The end, I believe, is just as instructive:
And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.
Lord Jesus, through your grace, teach us not to worry about losing. Teach us to love without reserve, without concern, without worry, that nothing – and no one – that you have made good may ever get away.
Amen.
- The full text of John Steinbeck’s letter to his son may be read online through The Atlantic: http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2012/01/john-steinbeck-on-falling-in-love-a-1958-letter/251375/


